THE DESTRUCTION OF PARENT/CHILD RELATIONSHIPS

"I have a feeling your father really never loved me or wanted to have kids. He's just fighting for child custody to have child support out of me." This sounds all too familiar. A hurt mother who has recently found out that her ex-husband had a 2-year affair with the front receptionist at his office. As many emotions running high in this mother's life, she often reflects her pain onto her children. This type of alienatator has an agenda to keep her children away from their father and to give them "her side of the story." All to common in our communities, we see and hear parents either purposely campaigning or naively speaking negatively about the other parent. 

Parental alienation has not only short-term but lifelong effects in people's lives. Often, children begin to see the "side" of the parent's hurt and may feel obligated to side with one parent over the other. As a result, children arrive to the targeted parent's visits with anger or refusing to be part of any visitation time. 

This societal topic happens far too common but not recognized as a major issue in families. Children become hateful, angry, negative, etc, towards the targeted parent in which makes the relationship with the parent far too difficult. Sadly, many targeted parents attempt to fix the problem with the end result of fueling the fire as children continue to rage against them.